Showing posts with label phobias. Show all posts
Showing posts with label phobias. Show all posts

Monday, 9 July 2012

Overcoming a Fear of Flying



Do you dream of visiting Australia but settle for Bournemouth? If so you are not alone, fear of flying is a surprisingly common phobia that can limit your horizons both in business and pleasure. Using the powerful combination of Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP you can understand the fear of flying psychology. In a positive, quick and easy way you can overcome your fear and plan your dream holiday instead of talking yourself out of taking it.

Fear of flying is also known as aerophobia or aviphobia, it is caused by the unconscious part of your mind warning you that it is dangerous to get on a plane. This is an important part of our brain that helps to keep us safe and out of harm’s way. This part of your brain is developing all the time form the day you are born and on. Remember when you were growing up and an adult tells you “HOT” to stop you touching the stove. Your unconscious brain learns that when you're told “HOT” that you should be careful. However in the case of flying phobia that protection mechanism has become over sensitive, often from misinformation and is now a casing you to associate flying with danger.

Some people who are afraid of flying they have never even stepped foot on a plane yet they still have this fear. This fear would be appropriate if the plane was missing a wing or was obviously not in a condition to fly, but statistics show that flying is in fact one of the safest things you can do. Air travel remains statistically safer than crossing the road and flying has been proven to be twenty five times safer than driving your own car.

  • 21,000 people (on average) die on the road in the USA in a 6-month period. This is approximately the same amount of all commercial air travel fatalities worldwide in 40 years
  • More than 3million people fly every day
  • A Boeing aircraft takes off or lands every 2 seconds somewhere in the world – all day, every day
  • 1 plane in 5 million crashes. Even then people still survive plane crashes, going on to fly again

Hypnotherapy, CBT and NLP will help you to understand why you have this fear, where it comes from and help you to feel relaxed and safe when flying. In your tailor made session you will learn relaxation skills that can become automatic when practiced and perfected. Hypnotherapy can help you to learn a new pattern of behaviour, helping you to simply relax and start to enjoy the freedom of flying and all the wonderful places you can visit.

Remember that during a session you remain in complete control, learning the skills you need to take them out of the session and put them into practice. You will leave the session feeling positive, motivated, confident and in control. All you need to do is bring you commitment and determination to become someone who can fly without fear.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Body Station on Mondays between 2.30pm - 7pm, please contact Erika for more information.   

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Wednesday, 11 April 2012

It’s not all in the mind . . . and it’s not all in the body either!

The Daily Mail reported recently on a randomised clinical trial involving 140 women in which Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) was evaluated as a treatment for menopausal hot flushes and night sweats (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2103946/The-doctors-think-conquering-hot-flushes-mind.html).  The results were impressive showing significant improvements in how these women rated the severity of their symptoms compared to a control group.  Additionally, they experienced further benefits to their mood, sleep and quality of life.  The hot flushes and night sweats associated with the menopause are believed to be due to falling levels of oestrogen and changes in the part of the brain which regulates body temperature.  An unequivocally physical process.  So how can psychological therapy help?  As professor Myra Hunter, the lead researcher on the project says “women’s perceptions of the menopause affect how they experience the symptoms”.  But she also stressed that “the research does not suggest that the menopause is all in the mind.”  Yet, unhelpfully, the Daily Mail headed their article “The doctors who think conquering hot flushes may be all in the mind”.  While the Daily Mail headline doesn’t say ‘menopausal symptoms are all in the mind’ the subtlety of their headline could easily be misunderstood to be claiming precisely this.

However, there is a much bigger point than misleading headlines at stake here and that is the muddled thinking about the ‘mind’ and the ‘body’ that has pervaded Western thought for centuries.  Muddled thinking that still stigmatises and ghettoises mental health problems.  The truth is that the mind and body are totally and utterly inseparable.  One of the guiding principles of Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is “The Mind and Body are part of the same cybernetic system”.  What this means in plain English is that the mind and body are two aspects of the same integrated system.  Crucially, these two aspects communicate with each other and influence each other profoundly.  In reality there is no such thing as a purely physical or purely mental disease state.  Even something as clearly physical as a broken leg will involve mental (i.e. cognitive and emotional) processes.  Let’s take as an example a footballer who suffers a broken leg caused directly by a vicious tackle.  Later, lying in hospital, our unfortunate player is not only in pain due to the fracture, but seething with anger at their assailant.  The anger is a very normal, and I would say, healthy, initial reaction to the event.  But, what happens if the anger does not subside and transform into acceptance?  What happens if that person lies in bed imagining all sorts of violent revenge scenarios, all the while strengthening their conviction that their assailant really did mean to cause this much damage?  Their anger is likely to fester into resentment and ultimately could become a deep-seated hostility, which could in time impair all that person’s relationships.   Contrast this with another footballer who suffers exactly the same injury but sees it as an unfortunate consequence of playing a contact sport.  Which person do you think is likely to suffer the most pain, and who is likely to heal, in the broad sense, faster?  [Importantly, the key word here is ‘likely’.  Just because someone harbours strong vengeful emotions does not necessarily mean that their healing will be compromised – simply that the likelihood is higher.]   On the other side of the coin let’s take a closer look at a seemingly clear-cut mental health issue such as depression.  Many depressive episodes can be considered to be largely, if not exclusively, the result of ‘disordered’ thinking (such as dark visions of the future, reliving past hurts and disappointments over and over etc).  Yet, there is increasing evidence that depression affects the immune response leading potentially to a number of physical disease processes.  Equally, there is a growing body of evidence that shows a disordered immune response can trigger depression in some people (see e.g. Brown, P. A mind under siege, New Scientist, 16th June 2001).  As Professor Mark Williams and Dr. Danny Penman say in their splendid book (Mindfulness: A practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world, 2012, Piatkus) “the body does not just react to what the mind is thinking – it also feeds back emotional information into the brain which can then end up enhancing fears, worries and general overall angst and unhappiness”.

No disease process or life challenge, whatever the direct causative agent (be it accident, infection, genetics, lifestyle, emotional trauma, life events etc), exists as an independent entity.  Menopausal hot flushes, depression, phobias, anxiety, tinnitus to name but a few always manifest within the lived experience of a unique human being.  Good hypnotherapists have long known this.  Which is why good hypnotherapy treats each person as the unique individual they are, and tailors therapy to each person’s unique strengths and aptitudes.  Good hypnotherapy is an integrated way of working – using the very best approaches from all the major therapeutic orientations (psychodynamic, humanistic and cognitive/behavioural).  Sadly some hypnotherapy trainings fall far short of the ideal.  On the other hand Hypno-psychotherapists who qualify to join the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) undergo a minimum of 4 years postgraduate training and are thus proficient in all of the traditional hypnotherapy skills as well as contemporary developments.  Hypno-psychotherapy is a truly person-centred mind-body approach  with an impressive, and ever-increasing, evidence base (the subject of a later blog).

© David Corr April 2012

David is a UKCP registered hypno-psychotherapist who has also trained to Master Practitioner level in NLP offers integrated psychotherapy and hypnotherapy at Waterloo Therapy Rooms, The Waterloo Body Station and The Aston Clinic.  For more information please contact David via his website: www.corehypnosis.co.uk

Wednesday, 28 March 2012

Help is available


Help is available 
A recent newspaper article highlighted the very sad case of a young man who committed suicide some while after returning home from a tour of duty in Afghanistan. A terrible tragedy for this young serviceman, his family, friends and comrades, compounded by the fact that it appears he didn’t have access to the help he needed. There is, of course, no way of knowing whether therapeutic assistance would have helped him deal with the traumas he was going through. But, the evidence does show that therapy can play a tremendous role in helping people recover from even the most profound traumas. The Ministry of Defence have said in a statement “The mental health of service personnel is a top priority”. But, I’ve often wondered whether service personnel know that in addition to formal therapeutic provision (which may not always be as readily available as we all might wish) there is a network of trained and registered psychotherapists who offer some of their time at reduced cost (indeed some will even offer therapy for no fee) to anyone who is serving, or has served, in the forces. The offer also extends to the partners, adult dependants, and parents of current and ex-service personnel. Details of this service can be found at http://www.thelongboathome.co.uk 

One very effective way of working with the aftermath of trauma is Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing – or EMDR for short. EMDR was developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro in the 1980s. Since then it has developed a truly impressive research base which shows its effectiveness in treating psychological trauma arising from experiences as diverse as war-related experiences, natural disasters, assault, surgical trauma, road traffic accidents, sexual and/or physical abuse or neglect, and workplace accidents. It has also shown its effectiveness in treating phobias, anxiety, and fears around public speaking to name a few.  More details can be found at: http://www.emdrassociation.org.uk/home/index.htm

The process of EMDR rests on the incredible observation by Francine Shapiro that holding a distressing thought in mind whilst performing rapid eye movements, which your therapist shows you how to do, leads to the distressing thought becoming less and less disturbing, until eventually the traumatic experience becomes adaptively resolved. [Eye movements are the standard way of doing EMDR, but there are other equally successful ways of achieving the desired results for those who cannot perform the eye movements.] Accredited EMDR training is only available to suitably qualified therapists (such as UKCP or BACP registered psychotherapists and counselors). There are plenty of films of YouTube claiming to show EMDR in action. Sadly many of these bear little relationship to actual EMDR. The most helpful films, albeit consisting only of text and a voice over, are available at: http://www.emdrassociation.org.uk/home/EMDR_videos.htm
I am two-thirds the way through my accredited EMDR training and finding it more and more useful in my practice for treating a wide variety of issues. I particularly value the fact that EMDR fits really well with my main approach of hypnotherapy. Together the two approaches offer genuine possibilities for resolving even long-standing issues.

Importantly, psychotherapy is not just for people who have experienced life-threatening trauma. Therapy can also be of huge assistance even when life is generally okay or even good, except for that one issue that stumps us (whether it’s battling with a weight issue, premature ejaculation, fear of public speaking or indeed any of the countless human issues that so many of us face).

So, if you know someone who is struggling to live with the memories of deep trauma, or just struggling with a life issue, you can let them know they don’t have to struggle on in isolation. Confidential and professional help is available.



By David Corr



David offers psychotherapy and hypnotherapy at Waterloo Therapy Rooms, The Waterloo Body Station and The Aston Clinic. For more information please contact David via his website: www.corehypnosis.co.uk

Monday, 19 September 2011

Public Speaking

For many of us the idea of public speaking brings us out in a cold sweat as butterflies start to race around our stomachs. But how come something that we do every day so easily like speaking all of a sudden becomes terrifying? Many of us would like to avoid public speaking entirely but this is not always possible. Making presentations, giving talks, a bestman's speech at a wedding, business meetings, the list of when we may have to confront our fears of public speaking is endless.

There are many reasons why public speaking starts to turn us to jelly. Here are just a few common reasons:

  • Self-consciousness – this could be because of accent, grammar, voice, image, the way we stand, how we perceive ourselves
  • Lack of confidence – often stems from a feeling that others are better speakers than ourselves or that they know more about the topic in question
  • Unfamiliar situation – unless public speaking is something you do regularly the formality of speaking to an audience can cause apprehension
  • Fear of looking foolish – we worry that we might forget what we want to say or stumble over words, even say the wrong thing
  • When you start to panic over public speaking your body goes into fight or flight mode, releasing adrenaline to help you cope with the situation
Public speaking is a perceived threat and although that perception feels all too real to those who suffer from it, the act of public speaking can do us no harm. Public speaking doesn’t have to be stressful, it can even be enjoyable. If you correctly understand the hidden causes of public speaking stress and if you learn a few tricks to calm your body and mind, it will soon become an invigorating and satisfying experience. Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP can help you to conquer any public speaking anxieties you have by building up your confidence, helping you to remain relaxed and calm. You can learn your body’s unique reactions to stress and anxiety and develop a healthy and positive way of thinking and feeling. You wouldn’t walk into a meeting having not prepared what you want to say, in the same way you need to prepare both body and mind for how you are going to say it, so you walk into the room ready to speak clearly and confidently.

Imagine, instead of public speaking filling you with dread, you can learn to enjoy it, even to look forward to writing and giving a presentation. Take the first step today to conquering your public speaking fears, relaxing in the weeks leading up to it and even enjoying giving the speech as your new found confidence fills the room.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Body Station on Mondays between 2.30pm - 7pm, please contact Erika for more information.